I have been with my husband, who is in the army, for seven years but this is my first experience of true military life. Before we were married we bought a house together and I was fortunate enough to be able to stay in our house whilst my husband commuted. Over the last three years we have had two beautiful girls one of which was born only two months before he was due to deploy to Afghanistan. Left with two young children has been and still is a very challenging time and although I am lucky to have a great bunch of military wives around me it has still been a struggle. I love to sing and joined Disforth choir just before my husband deployed. I love it so much. I find the weekends especially hard and having choir practice on a Sunday really gives me something to look forward to and something that I do once a week for me. I can take the children along and the girls at the choir all enjoy a cuddle with my three month old which frees me up to concentrate on singing. The Sunday choir practice following my husband deploying I spent the whole session crying but I was amongst a group of women who understood what I was going through and that really helped. I am so pleased and luckythat I am part of such a brilliant choir.
Disforth Military Wives Choir
I was really excited to hear about the military choir in our area as id always loved doing this kind of activity at school and was always singing when i had the time. I have been part of the military community for just over 5 and a half years and although i had the odd few friends I never really found others who I shared common interests with. During my time when I finished working after having my 2 small children I felt i was plunged into a community, who although at times were welcoming, was also quite alien. I was also suffering from post natal depression which did not help, and my husband was in Afghanistan and i felt very lonely and isolated. People were almost frightened to be around someone who was depressed.
Life was not easy at that time and although i pulled myself together it was not until i met with my new choir family that i found a new purpose in life. I found people who were like me, who enjoyed singing for the enjoyment of themselves and others. The women are lovely and welcoming and have even helped me with the low self confidence and guilt i feel through my depression, sharing their experiences and I am forever grateful to finding them and having the choir help me not only to enjoy myself but to help me build on my self worth and self esteem.
Shawbury Military Wives Choir
My husband and I live apart and have for 5 years. As you can imagine it can be difficult for people to understand what it’s like being an army wife especially being on your own through the week and through tours.
Since the choir has been set up in Shorncliffe I have been able to make new army wife friends that I can talk to about different aspects of being an army wife. I don’t feel like an isolated wife now because I meet up with others every week.
The choir is an amazing way to unite us all, especially somewhere like Folkestone where people are posted out of their husbands regular regiment.
We are definitely Stronger Together !
Shorncliffe Military Wives Choir
I was a military wife for 11 years before my husband died in his sleep from a heart attack aged 39 brought on by alcohol abuse as a means of self medicating as a result of PTSD. Our 3 children and I were given 90 days to vacate our quarter and all that we had known for those years was gone. Of course we have made a life in civvy street but there is something that is so unique about military life that there was always a hole, until a friend asked me if I would like to join the Defence Academy Military Wives Choir. I jumped at the chance to re-connect with that part of mine and the children’s lives again.
I have never been happier than I have been for the last 8 months since I joined our choir, the camaraderie and banter has been such a tonic and bonding experience. That was enough for me, but because of this amazing Military Wives Choir movement that has taken place I have been lucky enough to be part of the new album Stronger Together, the music video shoot in London and singing at the Royal Albert Hall at the Classic Brit Awards! Whilst of course it was fantastic to be conducted by Gareth Malone, with Gary Barlow and Andrew Lloyd Webber on pianos, I was just as excited and enjoyed meeting other military wives and hearing their stories. It has all been an amazing experience whether it’s on the smaller stage at our local gigs or on a national stage. I can honestly say that Stronger Together as a message is absolutely true and the fact that we are raising money for our Armed Forces whilst we are all having such fun is the icing on the cake.
Defence Academy Military Wives Choir
This is Soraya Holmes, we have been best friends since we were 11 years old. She has been my rock over the last 25 years, every up and down she has been there. Her family are my number 2 family and mine were hers, through the deaths of my mum and dad she was so strong and helped my immensely even though she was hurting too. Although our husbands jobs take us miles apart we are always there for each other and cherish every minute we spend together.
The words of Stronger Together sum up how I feel about Soraya, whenever I see her, I feel like I am home, nothing has divided us and nothing will, Together We Are Stronger. I can’t imagine not ever having her in my life, she is my sister in all but blood, I love her.
Chivenor Military Wives Choir